Anonymous said: What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it?



50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.

It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.

While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.

Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it. 

It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.



new video babes!  THE SEX TALK: 10 TIPS!  i never really got “the sex talk” from my parents, beside telling me JUST DON’T DO IT!!!!!!!

if I have kids, this will be how it goes down.  what was your “sex talk” like?

Dear Heart

Dear Heart,
You fragile powerful thing. There are times when I despise you. Moments when I want to tear you from my chest. If I didn’t feel each break of your delicate strength I’d think you did these things on purpose. Why can’t you be like our friend the brain. She knows better. The snotty thing. Always right. So many I told you sos. I think we’ll let her be in charge for a while.

Sigh. Dreams are fuckers. This is exactly why I’m awake right now.

Sigh. Dreams are fuckers. This is exactly why I’m awake right now.

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I’m printing this out. lol

I’m printing this out. lol

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"The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention."

— Thich Nhat Hanh (via rainydaysandblankets)

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Little Walls

I’m slowly building little walls around my heart with the bricks that appear each time you push me away.

Tags: heart diary

Begin Again

We’re talking again. I reached out and said hello. I felt strong enough, and far away enough from the hurt. It was nice. I missed talking to him.
It’s hard to train your heart and mind to get over someone when things don’t end in a horrible fiery crash. Things are easier to deal with when you can assign blame and be angry. Without the anger there’s always that lingering question. Why? Part of healing is answering that question for yourself without weaving anger and pity into the story.
Where do we go from here? How do we move forward?? These are questions I’m trying to answer. I’m not sure. Only time will tell. I’d love to be friends, but that may be me still thinking with my heart. We’ll see. Where ever it goes it goes. It’s all a part of the journey.






Summer anthem! At least once dirtylola69 must sung this for (or with) me.

YES!!!!!! It’s on!!!!

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